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Emotional Contagion

Episode 124: Emotional Contagion

Have you ever walked into a room to find that everyone’s laughing about something and so you begin to smile and maybe even laugh yourself as you enquire what’s funny?

It happens all the time, but what was it that made YOU smile and laugh? After all you didn’t know what they were laughing at!

But in that moment your mood had genuinely lifted, even if for a second or so.

You were smiling and laughing simply because someone else was smiling and laughing all because of the
phenomenon of what’s called Emotional Contagion.
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Patience

Episode 123: Patience

My previous episode Building On Your Foundations prompted a few messages from listeners saying that the only thing stopping them from being able to do that is impatience.

A lack of patience has probably always been an issue in society but it does seem to be getting worse.
Let’s look at what’s going on.

Image courtesy of Brett Jordan
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Foundations

Episode 122: Building On Your Foundations

Have you seen the Royal Navy advert that’s been shown over the last 12 months on TV?

Watch it here if you haven’t.

So, imagine that the voice over artist jumped from talking about fixing a skateboard to fixing a Type 45 Destroyer.

It’s too big a jump isn’t it? It doesn’t feel achievable.
To be the best you can be we need those steps in-between and we need the foundations to build upon before anything else.
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Dealing With The Critics

Episode 121: Dealing With The Critics

One thing that you can pretty much guarantee in life is that you will come under fire at some point.

You WILL be criticised by someone.
Whether that’s a teacher, a parent, a colleague or a random person on Facebook.

We can’t please everybody.
And sometimes it’s because not everyone wants to be pleased in the first place.
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Assertiveness

Episode 120: Being Assertive. Just Say No!

Have you ever said “Yes” to something, when in your head you’re screaming “Nooooo!”?
Maybe you fit in with the attitude that “If you want to get something done, ask a busy person”
After all, that’s what people say isn’t it?
But, why is that?
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Inactivity

Episode 119: Inactivity

Ever heard of neuroplasticity?
It means the brain’s ability to change and a lot of research has been undertaken to show just how flexible our brain really is, and coming back from a holiday last month made me think.

Usually when I talk about neuroplasticity it is because of the positives that come from it. Learning a new habit, recovering from a stroke that sort of thing.
But…
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Social Functioning & Evolution

Episode 118: Social Functioning & Evolution

Have you been on holiday this year at all?
Being happy in my work I forget sometimes that my family might like to get away from things for a while and so we decided to go away with a large group of friends for a week to Torquay.
We did a lot of different things and visited lots of places but there is one particular event that still sticks in my mind almost a month later.
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Unleash Your Inner Superhero

Episode 117: Unleash Your Inner Superhero

Have you ever pretended to be someone you’re not?
Maybe it’s not a bad thing. Now I don’t necessarily like the phrase “fake it till you make it” because it conjures up thoughts of imposter syndrome, but one thing that we all need to bear in mind is that we are not born with any behavioural traits, no particular personality, no beliefs about self, nothing.

So how to we develop our personality?
How do we learn what to say and how to say it?
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Goals, Values and Priorities

Episode 116: Goals, Values and Priorities

I saw a rant on Facebook a few weeks ago from another therapist, making a public outburst about the plus-size model Tess Holliday.
Now Tess is very overweight, she’s a size 26, and will obviously have some massive health problems if things don’t change, but being that shape and size is part of her identity and that isn’t going to change in a rush.

His rant was about the fact that…
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10 Tips To A Happier Life

Episode 115: 10 Tips To A Happier Life

First of all I want to say a big "Thank You!” to all the subscribers of my Podcast.
Last month’s episode put me at number one in the UK iTunes Podcast Chart.

For personal development to be more important than anything else, even if it was for just a week, is a great thing, so well done.

This month I want to give you a quick Top 10 of the hints and tips that I talk about as a therapist when helping people to become happier

1…..
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Lies And Confabulation

Episode 114: Lies And Confabulation

It’s true!
I lie to myself all the time, and guess what?
You are a liar too!!
It’s true. In fact you lie so much, that you believe your own lies. You even have constant hallucinations that create a whole new reality around you.

A version of your own personal world that is different to the reality that anyone else may experience.
But here’s the good news. These lies that we all tell ourselves often make our lives much easier and are a actually completely normal cognitive processes.
They might sometimes get in the way but one in particular is very useful indeed and prevents a great big black hole from appearing in your vision.

Take a look at the image below.
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Confirmation Bias

Episode 113: Confirmation Bias

Terry Pratchet once wrote:
"Be careful. People like to be told what they already know. Remember that.
They get uncomfortable when you tell them new things. New things…well, new things aren’t what they expect.
They like to know that, say, a dog will bite a man. That is what dogs do. They don’t want to know that man bites a dog, because the world is not supposed to happen like that. In short, what people think they want is news, but what they really crave is olds…Not news but olds, telling people that what they think they already know is true."
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Are You An Imposter?

Episode 112: Are You An Imposter?

If you've ever thought to yourself, "One of these days everyone will find out that I'm not as clever as they think I am," then you're in good company.

Because there isn't a successful person in the world that doesn't, at some point, experience what’s often referred to as "Impostor Syndrome".
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What doesn't kill you makes you stronger

Episode 111: What doesn't kill you makes you stronger

Let me tell you about a psychology teacher named Jessica Hartnett.
In the autumn of 2007, at Northern Illinois University, Jessica started research into what's called Affective Forecasting. Which is about predicting how we will feel in the future about something that has just happened. Previous studies have shown that we tend to overestimate the influence of both positive and negative events.

Using what is called the PoMS, The Profile of Mood States, students who took part were simply ticking boxes on a computer program that asked them to rate how highly they felt a variety of emotions.

All started out fine until Valentines Day 2008 when one of the students at the University took 4 guns into school and shot 26 people, 5 of whom died, and then he killed himself.
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Are New Years Resolutions a good idea or not?

Episode 110: Are New Years Resolutions a good idea or not?

Those of you who have been listening to my podcasts or reading my newsletters for a good length of time will know that I often talk about what a bad idea new years resolutions are. But what if i'm wrong?
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Are New Years Resolutions a good idea or not?

Grandads Gift

I didn't believe him at first, I looked at him on the playground through squinted, suspicious eyes.
"There's no such thing as Santa Claus!" he'd said and laughed at me. Of course, if he was right then I'd been lied to through all of the 9 years of my life.
But I was a clever boy, and I could understand why, if it was true that there was no such thing as Father Christmas, all parents would collude with each other to create this magical present bringing character.
But I didn't want to hear it from the biggest idiot in the class on the last day of term…
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